Now that you’ve installed beliefs in your subconscious mind on forgiving and releasing the past pain, it’s time to use those beliefs.
The next two lessons address the two major contributors to your pain: thoughts and emotions. In this lesson you’ll learn strategies to control your thoughts as well as a powerful “trick” to command you into thinking what you want.
Your Conscious Mind Can Be an Unruly Child
Your conscious mind is easily distracted. You have the power to get your mind to “sit down and be still.” Although your subconscious mind is set with the new beliefs, it’s time to train it.
It’s time for the real YOU to get in control of the unruly part of you which enjoys running amok and causing chaos.
Try these tricks and techniques to get your conscious mind, your thoughts, under control:
1. The trick of being two different people. This is like having two parts of yourself battling for control. You want your healthy self to win. Here’s one way.
- Stand tall in front of the mirror. This is your strong and powerful self who knows that you can release the pain of the past. Look yourself in the eye. You’re looking at the you who’s in pain.
- In a strong commanding voice say, “It’s over. It happened in the past. It’s not going to change. It’s time to move on.” Of course, adapt these words to suit you.
- You might hear or feel this whiney little voice start to say, “But, I…,” interrupt the voice and say in a strong voice, “No, I don’t want to hear it. We have a life to live. Now let it go.”
- When you command out loud, you’re reinforcing the beliefs you installed in your subconscious mind. You’re telling your subconscious mind, “Yes, I really mean that I am ready to release the past and move to a healthy future.”
2. Put all your thoughts and pain in a letter…. Then burn it. Research shows that writing things out with pen and paper has a positive effect upon the brain.
- Pull out pen and paper and write a letter you won’t be sending. No one will see this except you, so have no worries about how it looks or how you spell.
- Write a letter to whomever hurt you. You can write to a person, an organization, God, even to you.
- Put all your feelings into that letter. Use whatever language you want. Make it as strong as you can. Put the letter somewhere safe for a day.
- A day later, pull the same letter out. As you read it, cross out words and make them even stronger. Let all your anger, frustration, and pain come out in that letter. Put it aside for a day.
- Same thing as the past two days. Put it aside for a day.
- Take the letter out. Read it one more time. When finished, say aloud, “I release and let you go. You have no more power over me. Be gone.” Then burn it.
- This process engages both your conscious and subconscious mind. Give it a try, putting aside your doubts about whether or not it will work.
3. Change your thoughts. Reliving painful events only reinjures you. Have your strong powerful self who wants to be free of the past talk sternly, but lovingly, to the part of you who is hurting.
- Say, “Stop it. We’re not going there.” Then say, “Remember, this is where we’re going.” Begin imagining in all the sensory detail one of those wonderful images you used earlier when installing your beliefs.
- Avoid the temptation to be frustrated when you “catch” yourself rehashing the past. You’ll catch yourself earlier each time until you rarely need to speak sternly to yourself.
Avoid Allowing Others to Bring You Down
Friends and family may say or do things they believe are supportive but don’t realize they’re triggering the memories and feelings you’re ready to release. When that happens, it’s time to take firm but loving action.
If it’s appropriate, tell the person who’s making the comments, “Thank you for your continued support. If you would, I’d appreciate you supporting me by not bringing it up again. Let’s just talk about how wonderful life is now.”
If their comments trigger the feelings, give yourself a pep talk. “Shake it off. You’re doing great. Let’s go over again what life will be like when this is gone.” Then review one of your images you used when installing beliefs… or develop a new one.
Always remember how amazing you are and that you can release the pain and move to a happier future.
Congratulations on learning strategies in how to talk to yourself and change the way you think.
In the next lesson, you’ll learn how to change the feelings which bring you down.
Before you go on to the next lesson, please take a few minutes now to reflect and anchor in what you’ve learned.
It’s time for action. Please do the following now.
- Write out the words you’re going to tell your hurting self that it’s time to move on to a better life.
- Now, go to your mirror and say what you wrote. Write down what you experienced.
I. Additional Resources:-
I have the power to change my thoughts.
My thoughts are under my direct control. When my thoughts are displeasing to me, I take control of the situation and redirect them. I strive to maintain thoughts that are both helpful and pleasing to me. I can choose thoughts that serve me.
Everyone has the power to change their thoughts. I am developing this skill and getting better at it each day.
When I control my thoughts, I control my mood and my actions. The thoughts I permit to exist ultimately determine my results. I consciously choose what I want think about. My ability to do this is growing by leaps and bounds.
When my thoughts are distracting, disruptive, or ineffective, I take control of the situation. I consider which thoughts would be most beneficial and change the direction of my thinking.
Once I choose a new thought, I can maintain it with minimal difficulty. My mind is strong and capable.
My thoughts can alter my circumstances. I can alter my life and my experience in the world by changing my thoughts. Thoughts lead to actions. Actions lead to results.
Today, I actively manage my thoughts. I only entertain thoughts that propel me forward in life. I block negative thoughts from remaining in my mind. I control my thoughts and my focus. I have the power to change my thoughts in an instant.
- When am I most likely to have negative thoughts? What have these thoughts cost me?
- What are some positive thoughts I could have more frequently than I do now? How can I encourage these thoughts?
- How can I strengthen my ability to control my thoughts?
II. Additional Resources:-
My thoughts are under my control.
I am always looking for new ways to better my life and myself. Fortunately, almost everything in the world responds well to positive thinking. I attract what I put out. This is why, regardless of what happens, I keep my thoughts under control.
Because of this commitment to myself, I regularly practice meditation. There are many ways I do this: when sitting at a traffic light, waiting in line at the bank, and sometimes in a formal practice, where I sit for a while and watch my thoughts. This practice assists me in being aware of my thoughts, so that I can control them better and better.
The nature of the mind is to wander. But my mind does this because it is my ally, always scanning the horizon for potential danger. However, if my mind begins to focus on less preferable thoughts, I exert control over my thinking. I direct my mind to come back to the topic I choose.
I feel empowered by taking charge of my thoughts. Because my thinking is under my control, I know that I can make the best out of any situation and get what I want out of life.
Today, I am grateful that I know how to control my thoughts. I am confident that my ability to do this increases with time and practice. I commit to myself to meditate today to increase my mental control.
- Does my mind ever seem to “run away with me?” Do I feel easily distracted?
- What can I do to encourage my ability to concentrate?
- Are there specific thoughts I would like to focus on more?