In this module you’ve learned the tools and strategies which will assist in changing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which anchor in the past. You now know that managing those three things comes when you access your personal power.
As you use the strategies in this module, you’ll find the pain lessening. Your mind will clear, and you can focus on what’s important to you. You’ll be able to move into your new future.
Describe what you’d do in the following situations:
- You’re out to lunch and the person who hurt you runs right into you. Your gut clenches and feelings of worthlessness pop up. What can you do immediately and what can you do later?
- You’re at a party and someone speaks in glowing terms about the person who betrayed you. The old hurt comes roaring back. What can you do to release the pain?
- After the party where someone was talking glowingly about the person who hurt you, you can’t quit thinking about what happened. What can you do?
- Your route to work takes you past a place that reminds you of “the big hurt.” Each time you feel sad. What can you do?
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I accept my past and live in the present.
Each day is a wonderful gift. During the next few hours, I have the opportunity to work, laugh, share, and dream. I spend my time trying to make my life special and satisfying. I make a conscious effort to live in the moment so I can be content.
I am thankful for this day and choose to make the most of it.
An important aspect of living bountifully in the present is being able to accept the past. Even though I have sad, scary, and challenging situations in my past, I strive to be at peace with those events.
I realize there is a reason for everything. I feel strong in the present because I reflect on the experiences from my past. Much of who I am today is due to my past.
I avoid letting the imperfections of my before-life negatively affect my life today. Although I realize I am far from invincible, I know I am an empowered human being who can do whatever I put my mind to.
Today, I reflect on all the ways I am living in the present. I have overcome difficult experiences and I avoid letting them be stumbling blocks to me in the present. I vow to live in the here and now.
- What events from my past have I failed to accept?
- How do I focus on living in the present?
- What steps can I take to ensure that I live my best life?
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I am free to be all I can be.
Independence is something only I can give to myself. Any restrictions only exist in my mind.
I am free from living with the expectations and limitations put on me by others.
I am free from any social pressures. My focus keeps me from being affected by the negative opinions of others.
My parents, friends, and family love me, but I am responsible for living my own life. I am focused on reaching my destiny.
I have the time and resources to pursue any dream. I am able to acquire the resources I need to reach my ultimate potential. If I require a mentor, I am able to find one with minimal effort. Everything I need to grow and develop comes to me effortlessly.
It is freeing to know what I want and how to get it. Indecisiveness saps my energy and steals my time, so I make decisions quickly and easily. I stick to my plans and make them work.
Today, I am throwing off the last chains of limitation. I have the freedom to be all I can be. I am taking control of my life. I have goals and a plan to achieve them. Nothing can stop me!
- How have I let the expectations of others limit me in the past?
- What do I really want out of life?
- How can I ensure that I am brave enough to be all I can be?
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I let go of pain and anger.
There are times in my life when I feel painful and angry feelings. How I decide to act on these feelings can affect the lives of those around me. I understand that expressing anger in certain ways can cause those around me pain.
By forgiving those around me, I release the need for retribution or revenge. In this same way, I refrain from keeping track of who is right or wrong.
I find that expressing my anger in a hostile manner delays a positive resolution to my challenges and often brings me the opposite of what I want. So I put anger in my past and joyfully move forward without it.
Instead of spending my time replaying painful events in my thoughts, I choose to focus on the present moment. I can spend my time now enjoying new experiences.
When it is particularly difficult to release my pain, I accept these moments and forgive myself as I continue to work, over time, to let go of the negativity.
I love myself through all moments of my existence, including these difficult times. Accepting my love even helps me to let go of difficult pain and anger.
Today, I choose to release my need for retribution upon those that have caused me pain. I see that it is best to let go of my pain and anger like a balloon into a gentle breeze.
- When was a time that I felt angry or in pain?
- What would have happened if I released that feeling?
- What beliefs are preventing me from letting go of pain and anger?